A very powerful concept for social relaxation:
None of it matters – no social interaction or event really matters, especially over time – unless you want it to.
This is rather obvious, but it’s hard to apply given the unconscious importance we tend to place on social experience. If it isn’t obvious, consider all the social interactions and events you’ve ever had…
An extraordinarily small proportion of social experiences have had a significant affect on you. Think of all the social experiences you got worked up about – almost none of them matter now.
Really think about it for a moment…
Almost all of those countless uncomfortable social situations that got you worked up in the past are now forgotten and essentially meaningless. As you’ll notice, it takes great effort to recall even a few of these negative social experiences beyond the recent past, and even the few that can be recalled don’t really matter (if you don’t want them to).
This concept is valuable to employ on a regular basis. It enables you to consciously take control of how you interpret everyday social experiences. You can entirely disregard them if you want – none of them will inherently matter in the end, if you don’t want them to.
Practice shifting your attention elsewhere if a social experience is negative. Simple as that. Don’t let anything bother if you don’t want it to – it doesn’t have to be more complicated than that.